I still remember clearly how it all started. It feels like just yesterday I clicked on the app and saw his message.
“ Hi, I find your profile interesting and I am intrigued. I hope to know more about you.”
I was sitting down, just staring down at my phone. I just got called off by this other guy I was supposed to meet and I was already at the place we planned to meet. Wondering why would I go home after putting on my makeup, shaving my legs, and getting all dressed up. “What are the odds this could go wrong?”, I thought. I texted back, “Hi, can we meet later?”. He hesitated. Not knowing if he had time for it. It took a couple of minutes for him to accept my invitation. “Sure, let’s meet for a drink” he replied.
He sent me a link to a hotel and we met at the hotel lobby, I had champagne and he had some whiskey. We talked a bit and I found him.. somewhat nice and interesting. We just CLICKED. He was clean, well-spoken, offered to pay for my ride, but what surprised me the most was he offered me a hug before we parted. Maybe it was because I never really dated before, but I found that really nice.
The next day, he asked me out for lunch. He was a gentleman. I was late for 10 minutes and he was patient enough to wait for me. He served me and of course, I said thank you in return. I just don't think that I will ever have this experience if I were to date a guy my age tho I have never thought of dating an older guy. I wasn't in love yet, I was just surprised and curious .. about who taught him all these and why is he always smiling (still thinks of that till now).
After a month or so, I realized that I just couldn't bear for this person to leave me in any way possible. I would just think of him all night and I would be so sad that he isn't here with me. And then… IT HIT ME. I knew I fell in love with this person.. because I have never felt this way before with anyone else. I was also going through some family problems when I met him and when I told him about it, he was always so understanding and all the advice he gives always helps. But most of all, he gave me hope and he is the reason why I am happy and still breathing.
As I am quite mature and so is he, there was no drama, all our problems were always settled very calmly. All the time I spent with him was just so peaceful… and safe, it would just be like it was only us and we had no problems no obligations.
But of course, there is always a downside. He was a divorced guy with 2 kids, an 8-year-old and an 11-year-old. For me, it didn’t really affect my feelings for him but it really affected the amount of time we spend together. Viewing it from a positive perspective, although the time we spend together is short, it made us appreciate each other more and on the other hand, I can also tell that he would be a great dad if we ever had kids. I always respect the fact that he has to spend time with his kids and I also encourage that since it would help him bond more with them. We can always spend more time together when the kids get older.
Before I left for college, I told my mom I would NEVER fall in love with anyone. But at that point, I was referring to all the guys my age. I just felt that they weren’t mature enough for me. She told me “You will know it when you feel it”. And at this point, I knew.
Fast forward to now, WE ARE OFFICIALLY TOGETHER!! I am so happy and glad to have met this person. He brought so much laughter and joy to my life. I don't think I could ever feel this way without him. He just encourages me to do so many things and makes me... A better person.
To J.M., my bear :), I hope you know that I love you so much. I really appreciate all that you have done for me and I can’t thank you enough. You are perfect and perfect is you. I’ll always pray for the best for you and always hope you are doing well. Cheers to more adventures in the future!
Love, K.S.